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Well, we’ve done it again. We just couldn’t leave well enough alone. You were so forthcoming last year about all the deep, dark and really arousing details of your sex lives, we felt we needed to know more. So we came up with a bunch of new questions that some of you seemed to really enjoy and some of you, well … didn’t. But our Sex issue is supposed to be fun and entertaining. We hope that we have accomplished our goal. Even better, if you need to clean up after you are done reading this issue, our paper makes a great clean up towel. Enjoy!!

1. Are you a guy, girl or other?

Male	63%
Female	36%
Other	1%

Others (as you told us):
Part time cross-dresser
Transgender/cross-dresser

2. Are you straight, gay, bisexual or other?

	Male	Female
Straight	71%	74%
Gay	15%	8%
Bisexual	11%	11%
Other	2%	8%

Other:
Queer
Straightish
Pansexual. I enjoy everything under the sexual rainbow.
Straight, but I have strayed once or twice.
I’ve acted straight for far too long!
I would call myself straight, but I am bi-curious! Girls are gorgeous creatures.
I enjoy fucking animals.

This year, we asked you for a few more details and you accepted the challenge. But “I enjoy fucking animals”? Unless you’re talking about bestiality (which we doubt), don’t most of us enjoy a little one-on-one with the human animal?

3. How old are you?

	Male	Female
13 - 17	2%	4%
18 - 24	29%	55%
25 - 29	17%	18%
30 - 37	24%	10%
38 - 45	16%	7%
46 - 59	11%	1%
60 - 75	1%	0%
75-plus	0%	0%

Wow, this probably just reflects who answered our survey, but if not, the guys who read Vue Weekly are about a half dozen years older than the women. Or maybe we are just over analyzing. So, on with the juicy juicy.

4. In the last 12 months, you are?

	Male	Female
Still single	21%	22%
Still attached	50%	36%
Newly single	11%	16%
Newly attached	8%	13%
Sleeping around and loving it!	10%	13%

It seems like men are more stuck in their ways, but women are always up for a change.

5. When do you think “it” should be considered sex?

	Straight Male	Queer Male	Straight Female	Queer Female
FemalePenetration	35%	30%	49%	23%
Oral counts!	41%	33%	30%	19%
Digits and flesh	22%	25%	11%	35%
Hot talk or typing	1%	2%	0%	10%
I see a nipple	1%	2%	2%	6%
Other	1%	8%	7%	6%

Other:
When someone cums
With all participants happily committed, sex is in the mind.
Any intentional turn-on counts.
Any type of touching
Getting your dinky stinky
When it feels great, and it’s hot.
When one or both partners achieve, or attempt to achieve, orgasm … with the exception of teen boys filling their pants during make-out sessions

In the interest of full disclosure, we lumped together those who answered gay, bisexual and other in this question and some to follow. Unfair!?! Sure, but we only have so much space. As for the other answers, well, what can we say about “When your dinky gets sticky”? If you go to a farm and do “it” with a cowpie, that should count as sex. The theory seems sound.

6. With your current (or last) partner, when did you first have sex?

	Straight Male	Gay Male	Bi Male	Straight Female	Gay Female	Bi Female
First Night	19%	38%	35%	21%	33%	8%
First Week	25%	19%	22%	22%	22%	31%
Two-Four weeks	35%	28%	22%	22%	11%	38%
When married	3%	0%	4%	1%	0%	8%
Did it under the table when we met	1%	3%	9%	1%	11%	0%
Other	17%	13%	9%	32%	22%	15%

Other:
Two months
Allowed things to ride until we were unattached and let serendipity to take over
Never!
As soon as we were not friends anymore
Almost one year
Waited until she left her current partner … two years … too long
Second night
Year and a half
Six months after meeting her
Best friend’s brother … like three years after we met—I was drunk on my birthday.
We had been corresponding long distance for a couple weeks, but it happened the first weekend he came down to see me.
Friends for two years before we did it
After five years of friendship, one drunken night

There is a ton of variety on this question. There seems to be no obvious rhyme or reason to when people get down to it and do it. That is with perhaps the exception of bisexual girls who just don’t seem to give it up on the first night. Oh well, bisexual and gay guys are making up for it. Perhaps right now there is a couple in the bathroom of that nice restaurant in which you are eating. Go have a look.

7. What gives you the best orgasm?

	Straight Male	Gay Male	Bi Male	Straight Female	Gay Female	Bi Female
My partner	75%	59%	52%	46%	56%	46%
Me	13%	31%	17%	24%	11%	23%
My partner’s hand	6%	3%	4%	8%	22%	15%
Other	6%	6%	26%	23%	11%	15%

What else is there? Here is what other meant to some:
Blowjob
Getting my partner off
My partner’s fingers, placed properly … very deep …
When the sex is mind blowing between the two of us and sweat pours off both of us
Multiple partners
Jets from a hot tub
I have never had an orgasm.
The shower nozzle
My Dark Angel vibrator—best investment I ever made!!
Don’t think I’ve ever had one.
It’s called the Decadent Indulgence.
I love my partner and he can certainly do it for me, but I’ve had some awesome fantasies while masturbating—I also really enjoy hot talk on the phone.
I have huge balls (the size of extra large eggs) and when she plays with them, it makes me unload a massive load.

Well, it seems that the options we offered did not satisfy the straight ladies or the bisexual guys. But as you can see, they were not shy about telling us what does satisfy them. Gay guys seem to be more comfortable than anyone else going at it solo. They are probably going at it right now. Don’t make a mess of the paper; there’s still more to read.

8. What word best describes your first time having sex?

	Straight Male	Gay Male	Bi Male	Straight Female	Gay Female	Bi Female
Ideally-romantic	7%	6%	9%	13%	11%	8%
Awkward	49%	34%	39%	35%	44%	31%
Amazing	16%	22%	13%	9%	22%	8%
Alcohol induced	14%	12%	13%	11%	0%	15%
Scary	3%	13%	9%	11%	11%	0%
Worth every penny	4%	0%	0%	1%	0%	8%
Statutory	1%	6%	9%	0%	0%	7%
Other	7%	6%	8%	19%	11%	23%

Others:
Extremely Quiet. Mom and Dad were in the next room.
She had four orgasms, and I collapsed. This scale does not begin to describe what it was like.
Painful
Haven’t had sex yet
Dirty
The first time I had intercourse with a man was such a revelation and felt so right and so liberating
Very tiring, I did not cum the first time.
Icky
Way too quick
A little badunkadunk in the back of my car
I lost my virginity ‘cause my friend dared me to. Let’s just say he was small and I didn’t feel anything.
Ecstasy-induced
Exciting but nerve wrecking
“Alright, let’s get this shit over with.”
Gratifying
Horrific, I was raped
Wow, it was just so big!
I would say it was incredible … it was his first time and he was perfect.
We didn’t have any lube so I grabbed a tube of aloe vera gel on my window sill. Unfortunately, it was February and the gel was almost frozen. When it hit the dick, he shriveled like a garden slug dipped in salt.

Interesting, the odds of someone getting pissed and busting his/her cherry is almost equal for every one but lesbians. Are they having sex and then getting pissed, or do they just have better judgment than the rest of us? Bisexuals seem to be the most likely to cross the age barrier. We forgot to ask if you were the younger or the older of those involved. Well, maybe next year.

9. How important is someone’s ability to kiss?

	Straight Male	Gay Male	Bi Male	Straight Female	Gay Female	Bi Female
Hugely! If you can’t kiss, there’s the door	35%	56%	30%	52%	78%	61%
Practice makes perfect!	59%	38%	65%	45%	0%	31%
Not important at all	4%	3%	5%	2%	0%	8%
Other	2%	3%	0%	1%	22%	0%

Others:
Not worth ending a great relationship over but still frustrating
Huge, but there are other redeeming qualities/skills, of course
I really get turned on by an excellent kisser—kissing is a must.
Hard to get over but possible
Haven’t met anyone who can’t kiss—yet
Very, and yet I’m dating someone who has never been into kissing!!
It depends on where they are kissing me

Where’s the love lesbians? Doesn’t your lover deserve a chance to practice? Overall, the guys were more willing to keep their lovers around; perhaps they’re focused on different parts on their lovers’ anatomy.

10. What would you try if you had the opportunity?
(Each person could select all that applied.)

	Straight Male	Gay Male	Bi Male	Straight Female	Gay Female	Bi Female
Tantric	43%	53%	43%	62%	67%	69%
Group (3 or more)	71%	81%	83%	39%	22%	69%
Sex outside of your preferred gender	13%	19%	65%	43%	56%	77%
Fetish play	34%	44%	48%	48%	33%	62%
Anal	49%	44%	74%	33%	23%	46%
Internet/phone Sex	25%	25%	35%	35%	21%	46%
Sex with: prostitute	15%	13%	17%	6%	10%	15%
Transvestite	8%	6%	35%	3%	24%	14%
Other	5%	13%	9%	0%	0%	17%

Other things:
BDSM
All but beastiality, pedophilia, necrophilia
Pretty much anything that is safe
Sex in public
Watersports
Same room sex, but not necessarily group
Forced feminization and femdom
I don’t think that it’s appropriate to list “tranny” as if it is a specific kind of sex. While prostitution refers to a specific sexual relationship, “tranny” refers to a person whose physical body does not (or does now, but has not always) matched their gender. It is dehumanizing to refer to having sex with a “tranny” as a fetish or something you “do.” Would you put Asian on the list?

Well, as you can see, we changed the wording on this one for print because we were shown the errors of our ways—we certainly didn’t mean to offend. Point made!

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